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Date Saturday, April 20, 2024
COST Pay what you can! No one turned away. A suggested donation when you reserve your ticket: $10
TIME 12 noon Pacific to 1:30 pm Pacific / 3 pm Eastern to 4:30 pm Eastern
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Predators and Abusers: Yellow Flags and Red Flags in the Context of Kink

Part of our Consent Series of community education workshops and panels.  In this one, we will discuss and explore possible yellow flags and red flags when it comes to predatory behavior or abusive behavior in the context of kink.  The yellow/red flags will be discussed in both dating contexts and ongoing intimate relationships.

We will have two special guests, experienced kink-knowledgeable therapists, Alex Pitagora and Stefani Goerlich, to discuss these issues and take questions.


We will be recording this event and making it available for people who register for the event before 9 am Pacific on April 20.  Only people registered before the event begins will have access.  Recordings, once processed and available, will be available for one month before the video is closed to viewing.

All tickets listed below are suggested donations.  If you would like to register for the workshop for free, please email [email protected]

Participants will learn about possible signs of abuse or predatory behavior, and how these can lead to consent violations among other aversive outcomes

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Our panelists include kink-knowledgeable mental health specialists and therapists, Alex Pitagora, and Stefani Goerlich.

Dr. Dulcinea/Alex Pitagora is a kink expert, psychotherapist, and sex therapist, licensed in New York, DC, New Jersey, Pennsylvania, and Colorado). Their brick-and-mortar office is located in NYC, where they practice individual, couples/multi-partner relationship, and poly/leather family therapy, as well as supervision and mentorship. Dr. Pitagora is an out and proud member of the queer, trans, kink, and polyamory communities, and is equally proud to be a former sex worker, as well as an anti-racist/-oppression/-exploitation activist. Dr. Pitagora holds a Master of Arts in Psychology from the New School for Social Research; a Master of Social Work from New York University; a Master of Education and a Doctorate in Clinical Sexology from Widener University; and is an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, CST Supervisor, and CE provider along with their colleague Dr. Jillien Kahn. Dr. Pitagora teaches sexual health at New York University; has published articles and chapters in peer-reviewed journals and books; and presented at conferences on the topics of alternative sexuality and gender diversity. Dr. Pitagora is the founder of ManhattanAlternative.com, a nationwide alternative lifestyle affirmative provider listing; and was a co-founder and -organizer of the AltSex NYC Conference.


Stefani E. Goerlich  is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Board-Certified Diplomate of Clinical Sexology. She is a private practice therapist, supervisor in training, and author who specializes in working with and educating about gender, sexuality, and relationship diversities (GSRD). Stefani is the multi-award winning author of four books on BDSM/kink and mental health, co-hosts the Securing Sexuality podcast and conference which educates sexual and mental health providers about the intersection intimacy and technology, and founded The Bound Together Foundation which awards micro-grants to improve access to care for GSRD clients and those who serve them. Licensed in Michigan, Arizona, Ohio, and Florida, Stefani is a sought-after public speaker, media consultant and expert witness. In addition to her clinical work, she is on the teaching faculty at the University of Michigan’s Sexual Health Certificate Program and the University of Minnesota’s Coleman Institute for Gender and Sexual Health, where she teaches courses on sexual dysfunction, paraphilias and alternative sexualities, sexual trauma, and digital sexuality and social media.

There is no Continuing Education credit for professionals with this event.

Cancellation / Grievance Policy

TASHRA reserves the right to cancel any event that does not meet our minimum registration within 4 business days of the class. If TASHRA cancels an educational event, you will receive a credit toward another community education event in the future.

While TASHRA makes every attempt to assure fair treatment for all participants, occasionally complaints will arise about continuing education programs. The procedures for addressing complaints are as follows:

When a participant files a complaint, either orally or in written format, and expects action on the complaint, the following actions will be taken.

  1. If the grievance concerns a speaker, the content presented by the speaker, or the style of presentation, the individual making the complaint will be asked to put his/her comments in written format. The on-site Coordinator will then pass the comments on to the speaker, assuring the confidentiality of the complainant.
  2. If the complaint concerns a workshop offering, its content, level of presentation, or the facilities in which the workshop was offered, on-site Coordinator will mediate and attempt to resolve the complaint on-site. If the participant requests action, the Coordinator is empowered to:
  3. provide a credit for a subsequent workshop, or
  4. provide a partial or full refund of the workshop fee.

Actions 2b and 2c will require a written note, documenting the grievance, for record keeping purposes. The note need not be signed by the grieved individual.

  1. If the complaint is made after the program has occurred or concerns the TASHRA programming more generally, the TASHRA Complaint Panel will address it as follows:
  2. Request that the complainant submit a written complaint and propose an appropriate remedy,
  3. provide the instructor(s) with the opportunity to respond to the complaint and propose an appropriate remedy,
  4. review these documents, make a final determination, and decide on any remedy.

For further information, contact Richard Sprott at [email protected] . You can also contact us at TASHRA, P.O. Box 812, Rio Vista, CA 94571


All tickets listed below are suggested donations.  If you would like to register for the workshop for free, please email [email protected]


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